Be The Mountain
In today’s video I’m going to be talking about how to be the mountain.
You know that huge guy in Game of Thrones? That’s who I’m talking about. I want you to be him. Of course I’m kidding.
It’s a metaphor for being a woman strength. Her rock. Her mountain. It’s a huge part of being a strong, confident, alpha male.
One of the most critical aspects of having a great relationship is safety in a relationship. If you want a great relationship, both you and your partner need to feel safe with each other.
That’s why any negativity, such as criticism, excluding, and blaming. Any negativity in a relationship will lead to feeling disconnected from our partner. Then we feel hurt, our separation anxiety is triggered, and we lose emotional self control.
I got an email here from Benny who said: Hey Craig, I’m having a really difficult time when it comes to my temper. When my girlfriend says something is bothering her, I try to fix the situation. I get so mad because she then gets angry at me and says I’m not listening. At that point, I lose it. I get so mad, I start screaming and yelling. I’ve gotten to the point where I have thrown things, and broken a few things in the home. I know I have a problem, what do I do.
Okay: So Benny, you’re obviously frustrated with the situation because things are not going the way you want them to. So it sounds like you think by acting that way, throwing a tantrum, you’re going to force that person to give you what you want. How’s that working for you? Probably not good if you want a good marriage.
In order for a woman to trust you and feel safe (remember safety is one of the most important aspects of a relationship) you must stay calm, relaxed, playful and confident with a woman.
When you lose emotional self control, like you admit to doing, the feelings of safety are gone. She will no longer trust your masculine core. She will then begin to test you more and more. It’s her way of trying to make you grow.
For example: When your woman’s interest level drops… And it inevitably always does in the course of a relationship. A confident secure man does not freak out. No tantrums, no crying, no screaming.
You stay calm and relaxed.
If your girlfriend has a different opinion about something than you. Just tell her I’m not listening! I’m not listening! Of course I’m kidding!
For example, if she says, Honey I really think you should do this differently about your job. Some guys will feel pressure, get angry and upset. They lose their temper. You want to be calm and relaxed.
If a girl says you’re really skinny. Make a joke about it. If she says your fat, make a joke about it.
Self deprecating humor is a great way to show how strong you are emotionally. It’s like saying, hey I know I’m not perfect, but I’m still awesome.
A fence is only as strong as it’s weakest link. A woman will keep going back to the weak link over and over and over again. Until it’s fixed. And then, she’s going to go back to it over and over and over again. To make sure it’s still strong.